Let's just deal with Mr. Nice right now.
Okay guys, wake up call... NICE is BORING. Naughty is at the very least, interesting. Here's a few principles to think about when you're in a relationship.
In a relationship, sure, you're going to show love & there are five ways of showing love. But you don't ever need to use the way that you SAY you love her. Show that love day & night sure, make efforts in the relationship that bring you both happiness, but have enough space from each other that your beloved can feel the loss of you each day. When you're giving your girl attention it should be like the sun is shining in her face... (not out of her arse) & when you take that beautiful energy away from her, you enhance it even more. What is a night without the day? Cold... but you know the sun rises. Learn about Tinder dating secrets
What is a nice day for 9 months like in the arctic circle? Boring & dreadful on the eyes. NICE? Do nice things sure but master their absence & work on push pull theory within the frame of relationship. Forget Nice. Long term, Nice is AFC territory.
Here's a simple equation, hope + doubt = passion.
If you give a girl the impression you're going to be around forever you'll run the risk of boring the pants off her instead of taking her panties down with your teeth.
When your time is limited it becomes all the more special for each moment they have the prize of you in sight. You keep her wanting for more because she fears the prospect of you leaving... RELATIONSHIPS ARE NO DIFFERENT!
Be romantic, be adventurous, you can FLIRT with your own GF didn't you know? Be playful, be naughty, be yourself, that's sexy, but don't even get near NICE. You fulfill her needs, emotional security, physical hungers, thirsts... you feed her, you cook for her, you love her, you allow her your body & when you tease her, please her & have her screaming your name you satisfy her...
With any action eliminate the nice. For example, let's say you cook for her & get all romantic, you're not trying to be nice. If you cook for her you're not being nice, you're showing her love. There's nothing wrong with doing nice things, or being nice to someone, there is however, the wrong intention behind it & the wrong application of nice can bore a person if you're not exciting & interesting in equal measure to just being plain nice.
I was a nice guy to the first girl I really loved & I lost her because something more exciting came her way... travel in that case but still, if I'd had been as exciting as the prospect of that travel or had my own threat of going off on my travels at the time I would have been with her for longer. It's about probability & satisfying the human thirst for wonder & well, fittingly enough, Mystery. Not knowing... the most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious.
Nice, predictable, regular... *YAWN* average... usual... *Zzzz* normal.
Passionate! Unpredictable! *Boo!* Extraordinary! Exciting! Unusual, (",) Natural...
Pick one & lose miserable, pick another & live each of your days with passion. Keep her guessing, keep her wanting. Keep taking away. Keep surprising her. Exceed your own expectations but accept that your best is good enough.
We met this weekend, just felt awkward being with her, could tell spark was very faint in general, didn't feel much for this girl anymore. Had sex and after finishing, I just felt like running the fuck away. Realized her attitude to me won't change as I allowed it for too long. I hooked up with another girl twice last week and I saw on her phone she was planning to hookup with some other guy the following day. Too complicated, very dysfunctional, would've ended 1/2weeks later anyway. So I Ended it, a lot of drama afterwards, we both texted thanks for everything/have good life, and now it hurts (even though logically I know she was a horrible match for me, I have limited dating experience, so breakups tend to hurt).
The main thrust of getting it done is what I call "Seducing Your Wife". You will seduce your own wife and lead her to the fun that can be had. More on that later in the post.
I do 3sums- I started mid way this year with a bi FB of mine and have more then 20. Its allot of fun. I could give a car load of 'moves and ticks' and shit to use at bars and with random HBs and what not- the key here is, DUDE ITS WITH YOUR WIFE! This could make your relationship stronger and more fun and expanded sexually.... Or, it could make your relationship past tense.
Its your wife and not some random bar whore. Be sure that you know this is about expanding the RELATIONSHIP to make her and you have more fun and not some one sided 'just get off a new way' phase (for her or for you!).
Emotions are the key force . If she is drunk when she tells you she likes HB coworker- why not discuss it more with her when she is sober? "Baby, you brought a simile to my face when you said XYZ sexy things about HB coworker last night. The truth comes out in wine I guess...I do you still feel about X" Have a real convo w/ her about her feeling that way toward another women.
Get Rick H's interview. He talks about the bi girl mindset. She has a few things to come to terms w/ as a bi lady. Many fun items but a few social, personal and emotional ones as well.
She is a polarity responder? (NLP term not RJ's SS BTW! But who cares...) This can work out well in leading her- I'll share w/ you how in a bit.
Why have you 3 (you, wife, coworker) NOT gone out to dinner and talked about this (or felt it out) as adults? The answer maybe inner game and frame of mind stuff that you both need to deal with as a couple be4 the sex starts.
Is she bi for herself or bi for you? It may seem like one or the next- it can switch though once it gets real. I'm such a great lover that many HBs will 3 sum for me to make me happy when they are not really all about the pussy. If she does it for her and her alone- GREAT! You can get some of that fun and will it build form there. If she only does it for you or just a one time thing to see what its like...
Women go thought phases too- she may have missed out on the bi curious phase of college girl life and wants it now- if only to try on. She may visit "bi HB land" or she may stay. Be cool w/ it either way.
Does HB coworker like you too? No 3sum if not for that! Also your wife sees you FUCK ANOTHER LADY! It is a small shock IRL when it happens (good mostly but otherwise too)... As is seeing the girl you love cum from another's actions with her pussy. Get your heads right! Many people though can handle it and like that.
Okay- now to do the fun work!
I hope you can make her g spot squirt and have read up on the sex tips here and gotten the vids on being a better lover an being male multi orgasmic and such. If she is to do and get more out of sex- you best keep pace! For her and for your self! Two people growing together grow closer together...
Go and buy and read together The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue ISBN: 1-57344-190-2 GIFT WRAP IT AND GIVE IT TO HER!!
You can read it together in bed (or before) and check out p 71 on 3sums and the NON JEALOUS ways to make it real and all it can be. Good book. More then just David S's vids to view together. Read it, FUCK HER GOOD, then talk about the book- you get logic and passion and emotion for you to play within her. A week into it and she will be more open in many new ways.
When a girl approaches you and makes the first attempt at starting conversation, what kind of openers do YOU prefer to be approached with? Casual comments (weather, etc.), current events and news comments, personal comments (on your clothes, etc.), humorous comments, or something else entirely?
How much does what she is saying matter in relation to other factors about her, like her appearance etc.? Will you laugh at even lame lines if she is attractive and "your type"? Will an interesting opener make you (re)consider someone who is not normally someone you would find attractive? Basically, does the line matter at all if she is what you would consider attractive in a female?
It doesn’t matter what she says
I don't think it matter's what a girl says. I have had a girl come up to me before asking for my underwear! Anything to break the ice. I am regularly asked to take photo's (that's a good one). A common one I find girls using is...hey you look like <insert celebrity name>. I am not the only one who gets this though, my friends/wings get it too.
This is a hard question to answer for some guys. I personally think a girl shouldn't (have to) approach. i think you should think more in the direction of 'how do i get approached more often'. i think a girl approaching sets the wrong dynamic. I’ll try to think of some arguments for this statement later, because i don't have a clue as to why I’m saying this at the moment
I listened to an interview of Anthony Robbins with John Gray (author of 'men are from mars, women are from Venus) once, and he made a very good point. He said 'a man needs to know he can be successful with a woman'. He was saying this in respect to proposing marriage to a woman, or saying I love you and stuff like that, but probably this rings true for pick up as well. Pick up artists refer to this as approach invitation*. Perhaps a good place to start then is going out and watching for women who give out these AI's and how successful they are with it.
I find this an interesting topic, i think many guys will answer 'if you want to get laid, just tell us', but that's probably not what you're looking for (in the first place that is).
Just a thought: use this question as pickup line (''does a pickup line matter?')
Be playful and make it fun
It is rare that women open up to a guy in the first place. I think they will be shocked or scared more than anything else. It's best to be playful and make it fun. Oh and yes ,appearance matter's. Guys can be just as harsh as girls if you don't look as though you've made an effort.
It’s less important that a guy's wearing the latest fashions - it's more important that he looks good in what he's wearing. His clothes should match/coordinate with each other, the clothes should fit well, and the outfit should look "pulled together". Learn how to meet women on Tinder.
First impressions aren't all about clothes - in some cases a great personality can make up for poor clothing choices. But unless you're meeting at a specific event that requires non-standard clothing (like a formal dinner party), but women assume what you're wearing when you first meet is how you'll look most of the time - so yes, casual, good fitting well matched clothes certainly do help with positive first impressions.