The main thrust of getting it done is what I call "Seducing Your Wife". You will seduce your own wife and lead her to the fun that can be had. More on that later in the post.
I do 3sums- I started mid way this year with a bi FB of mine and have more then 20. Its allot of fun. I could give a car load of 'moves and ticks' and shit to use at bars and with random HBs and what not- the key here is, DUDE ITS WITH YOUR WIFE! This could make your relationship stronger and more fun and expanded sexually.... Or, it could make your relationship past tense.
Its your wife and not some random bar whore. Be sure that you know this is about expanding the RELATIONSHIP to make her and you have more fun and not some one sided 'just get off a new way' phase (for her or for you!).
Emotions are the key force . If she is drunk when she tells you she likes HB coworker- why not discuss it more with her when she is sober? "Baby, you brought a simile to my face when you said XYZ sexy things about HB coworker last night. The truth comes out in wine I guess...I do you still feel about X" Have a real convo w/ her about her feeling that way toward another women.
Get Rick H's interview. He talks about the bi girl mindset. She has a few things to come to terms w/ as a bi lady. Many fun items but a few social, personal and emotional ones as well.
She is a polarity responder? (NLP term not RJ's SS BTW! But who cares...) This can work out well in leading her- I'll share w/ you how in a bit.
Why have you 3 (you, wife, coworker) NOT gone out to dinner and talked about this (or felt it out) as adults? The answer maybe inner game and frame of mind stuff that you both need to deal with as a couple be4 the sex starts.
Is she bi for herself or bi for you? It may seem like one or the next- it can switch though once it gets real. I'm such a great lover that many HBs will 3 sum for me to make me happy when they are not really all about the pussy. If she does it for her and her alone- GREAT! You can get some of that fun and will it build form there. If she only does it for you or just a one time thing to see what its like...
Women go thought phases too- she may have missed out on the bi curious phase of college girl life and wants it now- if only to try on. She may visit "bi HB land" or she may stay. Be cool w/ it either way.
Does HB coworker like you too? No 3sum if not for that! Also your wife sees you FUCK ANOTHER LADY! It is a small shock IRL when it happens (good mostly but otherwise too)... As is seeing the girl you love cum from another's actions with her pussy. Get your heads right! Many people though can handle it and like that.
Okay- now to do the fun work!
I hope you can make her g spot squirt and have read up on the sex tips here and gotten the vids on being a better lover an being male multi orgasmic and such. If she is to do and get more out of sex- you best keep pace! For her and for your self! Two people growing together grow closer together...
Go and buy and read together The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue ISBN: 1-57344-190-2 GIFT WRAP IT AND GIVE IT TO HER!!
You can read it together in bed (or before) and check out p 71 on 3sums and the NON JEALOUS ways to make it real and all it can be. Good book. More then just David S's vids to view together. Read it, FUCK HER GOOD, then talk about the book- you get logic and passion and emotion for you to play within her. A week into it and she will be more open in many new ways.
When a girl approaches you and makes the first attempt at starting conversation, what kind of openers do YOU prefer to be approached with? Casual comments (weather, etc.), current events and news comments, personal comments (on your clothes, etc.), humorous comments, or something else entirely?
How much does what she is saying matter in relation to other factors about her, like her appearance etc.? Will you laugh at even lame lines if she is attractive and "your type"? Will an interesting opener make you (re)consider someone who is not normally someone you would find attractive? Basically, does the line matter at all if she is what you would consider attractive in a female?
It doesn’t matter what she says
I don't think it matter's what a girl says. I have had a girl come up to me before asking for my underwear! Anything to break the ice. I am regularly asked to take photo's (that's a good one). A common one I find girls using is...hey you look like <insert celebrity name>. I am not the only one who gets this though, my friends/wings get it too.
This is a hard question to answer for some guys. I personally think a girl shouldn't (have to) approach. i think you should think more in the direction of 'how do i get approached more often'. i think a girl approaching sets the wrong dynamic. I’ll try to think of some arguments for this statement later, because i don't have a clue as to why I’m saying this at the moment
I listened to an interview of Anthony Robbins with John Gray (author of 'men are from mars, women are from Venus) once, and he made a very good point. He said 'a man needs to know he can be successful with a woman'. He was saying this in respect to proposing marriage to a woman, or saying I love you and stuff like that, but probably this rings true for pick up as well. Pick up artists refer to this as approach invitation*. Perhaps a good place to start then is going out and watching for women who give out these AI's and how successful they are with it.
I find this an interesting topic, i think many guys will answer 'if you want to get laid, just tell us', but that's probably not what you're looking for (in the first place that is).
Just a thought: use this question as pickup line (''does a pickup line matter?')
Be playful and make it fun
It is rare that women open up to a guy in the first place. I think they will be shocked or scared more than anything else. It's best to be playful and make it fun. Oh and yes ,appearance matter's. Guys can be just as harsh as girls if you don't look as though you've made an effort.
It’s less important that a guy's wearing the latest fashions - it's more important that he looks good in what he's wearing. His clothes should match/coordinate with each other, the clothes should fit well, and the outfit should look "pulled together". Learn how to meet women on Tinder.
First impressions aren't all about clothes - in some cases a great personality can make up for poor clothing choices. But unless you're meeting at a specific event that requires non-standard clothing (like a formal dinner party), but women assume what you're wearing when you first meet is how you'll look most of the time - so yes, casual, good fitting well matched clothes certainly do help with positive first impressions.